If you’ve been hanging around here for a while, you’ve likely seen the before/after pictures of my work. What you may not know, though, is that it’s quite challenging to get these pictures together, and the ones that I have posted only reflect a small portion of the results I’ve gotten with my clients. Many of them (understandably) are private and don’t want their pictures included.
For those clients who are open to being featured, getting an accurate before picture that’s also high enough quality for web use, is often difficult, not to mention planning a professional shoot for the after shot. But when it does all come together, and the client is up for it, the results are thrilling! I love being able to feature my clients and show off the hard work that they’ve done to overhaul their image. Even though I’m the image consultant, much of the work is done on the client’s part: showing up for appointments, trying on all the clothes, implementing my advice, etc. Image consulting is like a 12-step program: it works if you work it.
So now that you’ve gotten that behind the scenes, you can appreciate how big a deal it is when the stars align, and I’m able to pull together a before/after I can use. Below are two new before and afters I’m proud to be able to share.
The first one is a tech CEO and father of 3 who lives in the midwest. We started working together in Spring of 2014 (when the before pic was taken), and we’ve been traveling back and forth to see one another several times a year since. At first it was a complete overhaul; now we’re in maintenance, where we touch things up seasonally and depending on what events, talks, etc., he needs to attend or present at. This client is an absolutely fantastic guy, and I’ve loved every second of working with him (and incidentally, I’ve now worked with his wife and niece too — it’s a family affair!).
The after shot was taken exactly 2 years after we started working together. The first three things we worked on that were the keys to our success off the bat were: 1) getting him into trimmer and better-fitting pants and jackets, 2) convincing him that tucking in his dress shirts would actually be more flattering to his build than wearing them out, and 3) getting him an improved haircut that would be more flattering to his face shape and hair type.
The second before and after is one that my awesome client Michael H. sent me out of the blue one day. Michael is a busy attorney and father of two from the west coast. We started working together in April of 2014, coincidentally about two years ago as well. Even though the pix weren’t professionally done, and I wasn’t there to style him for the after shot, I was thrilled to get the email from him with the images and thanking me for my help. I don’t get all the credit here though — as you can see, Michael has not only been hard at work transforming his image and style, but he’s also lost a ton of weight and gained muscle. He dropped 4 inches in waist size. Michael told me in his email that he laughs now recalling that he had told me his before picture was his best outfit.
The top three elements that paved the way for Michael’s success were: 1) demonstrating to him that he had been buying shirts and pants in sizes that were too large for him, 2) upgrading his haircut and showing him how to style it and with what product, and 3) teaching him how to dress in a way that was flattering to his height and newly trim build.
Getting results and feedback like this is a true rush for me, and it’s the exact reason why I fell in love with the work that I do. I’m a Fixer (with a capital “F”) through and through, and I love being able to use my skills to help my clients become their best selves. I always like to say, “it’s you, only better.”
Thanks so much for reading, and if you’re thinking about making a major (or even minor) transformation, don’t hesitate to reach out to me.
There very few things like a perfectly-fitting pair of jeans on a man (the above British GQ spread of Matthew McConaughey-hey-hey is pretty good proof). And the way you have them tailored — or not — can make or break them. I recently did a jean overhaul with a client, and as we were having them tailored, I realized that even though I’ve already written about how to find a great-fitting pair of jeans, it’s also important to talk about the tailoring.
1. When shortening jeans that have any kind of distressing or detailing along the hemline, ask the tailor to re-use the original hem. That means he or she will remove the hem that’s already there, cut the jeans shorter, and then reattach the hem higher up. And you get to avoid that my-mom-hemmed-my-jeans look that distressed jeans get when they’re just folded under and hemmed normally. If your tailor doesn’t know how to do this, find another tailor.
2. Check the waist — if it gaps when you put a belt on but fits well through the seat and thighs, the waist needs to be taken in. Ideally, though, your jeans should fit well everywhere, so I’d only suggest this for jeans you already own or that are on super sale.
3. During tailoring, wear the shoes you plan on wearing most often with the jeans. That way, you and the tailor can choose the length based on that. Keep in mind that once you’ve chosen a length based on heel height, you’ll be limited to shoes with the same or similar heel height. If you have a broad range of shoe types (which hopefully you do — if not, here’s my post on the 6 essential shoes every guy should have in his closet), then not every pair of jeans is going to work with every shoe — i.e, you’ll have some that will work with flip flops and flat loafers but not with your dress shoes. So it makes sense to think ahead when having your jeans hemmed as to which shoes you’ll be wearing them most frequently with. And once you’ve decided, make sure you actually bring those shoes to the tailor when you go.
4. Taper jeans that are excessively wide-legged. Elephant leg, as we’ve discussed, is not a good look. It can make your legs look short and stumpy — not recommended! This often happens unintentionally when jeans get shortened — the tailor brings them up without realizing that the new bottom of the jeans is unflatteringly wide. So take a good look at the width of the jeans around the new hemline to see if it needs tapering. Some jeans only need a slight taper to just above the ankles, and others need it almost as high as the knee.
Do you have any tips or tricks for how you get your jeans tailored perfectly? Please share in the comments!
Even if you’re not going to the Derby itself, but rather watching at home or a party, I highly recommend dressing for the occasion. There are plenty of options for Derby gear, suitable for everyone from the most conservative guys to those with a little more style aplomb. Here are a three outfits to consider, from least to most dialed:
Hats, of course, an optional bonus 😉
images via kentuckyderby.com, GQ.com, vineyardvines.com
Man jewelry is one of those things that a lot of guys are curious about but are not sure how to (or if they even can) pull off. I get it — it’s so easy to do it wrong, that it’s almost too intimidating to try. Take my long-time client “A,” for example, who works for a management consulting firm. When we first started working together several years ago, every Friday when he came home from the office, he’d put on a colorful beaded necklace. This was his way of marking that the weekend had begun and he was transitioning into hip and relaxed dad mode. Only issue was the necklace looked like one of those candy necklaces kids wear (that’s actually what I thought it was the first time I saw it — oops). Not exactly cool dad material. Even though A didn’t quite execute, I give him props for trying. Fortunately this problem had an easy solution — we ditched the necklace in favor of a more masculine-feeling and subdued combination of bracelets that he looked forward to putting on every weekend and that didn’t make him look like he shopped for accessories at the candy store.
How can you avoid looking like a casualty when it comes to wearing man jewelry? I’ve put together the following 8 basic rules for you to follow so you can get it right the first time, plus a few pix from around the web for inspiration. [Note: for the purposes of this post, I’ll only be addressing casual jewelry — necklaces, bracelets and non-wedding band rings — as that’s what I see guys struggling the most with].
Have you tried the front-tuck yet? It’s one of the best (and easiest) ways to create that undone-done look that makes it look like you’re not trying too hard.
Here’s how you do it:
Note: this does not work with baggy shirts (it just looks sloppy), so make sure you don’t skip step 1!
image via people.com
People ask me if when I’m out in public I mentally critique what other people are wearing. While unflattering outfits do register on a subconscious level, I’m actually not always scoping folks out. But every now and then I come across a particularly egregious style snafu that makes me stop and scratch my head.
Below are 5 of the worst style offenses I came across in 2015, and because I like to keep things positive around here, I also put together 5 easy actions you can take to improve your image in 2016.
1. Pants so tight we can see the full curvature of your rear end. Let’s keep some of that badonkadonk a mystery, shall we?
2. Tie point hitting in the middle of your belly. When this happens, because the tie point often lands on the widest part of your stomach, this can actually make you look like you have more of a belly than you actually do. The bottom of your tie should instead hit at the top or center of your belt buckle, so tie your knot accordingly.
3. a) Poorly-fitting rented tuxedos.
b) Known associate of offender #3a: tuxedo vests.
4. Excessive amounts of cologne and/or aftershave. If your smell stays in the elevator for more than 5 seconds after you exit, I implore you to tone it down. And I know I said this last year and the year before that, but my nasal passages are still being assaulted more often than they should be by awful-smelling aftershaves. If the kind you use rhymes with Schmold Schpice, find something less offensive to wear.
5. Jean pant legs that run like a straight column from knee to ankle (above, left). I call this “elephant leg.” Some tapering above and around your ankle will make you look longer and leaner (above, right).
1. Get undershirts that fit trimly. This will make a world of difference in terms of how your dress shirts look on you.
2. Replace your worn-out jeans. I get it, they’ve been with you through all your ups and downs. But trust me when I say the holes and shredded bottoms are not cute.
3. Incorporate a great pair of boots into your wardrobe. If boots aren’t a regular in your casual wardrobe routine, it’s time to change that. Get yourself a go-to pair of leather or suede boots, and your wardrobe will be elevated instantly.
4. Update your loungewear. Just because you’re hanging out at home doesn’t mean you need to be sitting around in a pair of old mesh shorts or your boxers. Get a few pairs of shorts and t-shirts that are specifically for just chilling (bonus: if there’s a fire alarm and you have to run outside, you’re set). James Perse and Derek Rose are two brands in particular that I like for this.
5. Dress situationally. One of the secrets to refined style is to dress in line with whatever situation you find yourself in. This means if you go out at night, you don’t wear the same thing you did to work that day. You take it up a notch. Similarly, you wear different colors and fabrics in Fall and Winter than you do in Spring and Summer. Think darker tones and more texture. Once you start learning how to dress situationally, you’ll actually radiate a sense of effortlessness through your look.
Wishing you a dashing and delightful 2016.
Welcome to the 6th annual Rath & Co. holiday gift guide! This list is one of my favorite posts to create for you. And if your inbox over the past week has been anything like mine, it’s filled with a frenzy of sales and offers, some better than others. It’s a little overwhelming, even for me. There is so much stuff to weed through. And let’s be real, much of what’s being touted as good holiday gifts is uninspired and trite. Kind of like just going through the motions of giving someone a gift without putting much thought into it. What’s the point of that?
What I’ve done with this year’s gift guide is scouted for Rath-approved items that not everyone else will be getting — interesting and unique gifts that show some thought was put into choosing them. The list is divided up into ideas for men and ideas for women and cover a range of budgets. The ideas for men may cover the guys on your list — or maybe they’re things you’ll ask for yourself.
Cause and Effect bracelet ($50) – This is for a guy who’s somewhat advanced in the style dept. Man jewelry is not the easiest thing to pull off (post coming soon on that, I promise), but I love the raw feel of this painted copper cuff. It can be worn alone or in combination with a watch or other bracelets for a full-on arm party.
Nike + Undercover Court Force High-Top Sneakers ($150) – OK, so he’s got a basic non-workout sneaker (hopefully). Now it’s time to take it up a notch with something more stylish. This high-top from Nike is a great option for a guy who wants to step up his style but doesn’t want to get involved in wacky colors or over-the-top patterns.
Felisi jeans belt ($175) – If you or the guy on your list doesn’t have a solid jeans belt (no, the reversible black to brown one does not count), it’s time to remedy that. I like this one from Felisi because each buckle hole is embossed with numbers for a subtle twist on the classic.
Wooly Mammoth Tusk Kershaw Knife ($270) – I can’t think of many gifts more manly than a badass knife like this one. The handle is made from the tusks of wooly mammoths that lived around 15,000 years ago.
Kingsman + Deakin & Francis rose gold chevron money clip ($395) – Many of my clients use money clips, so I’m always on the lookout for extra cool and different ones. This rose gold chevron one is a great find — totally unique and eye-catching.
D.L. & Co snake journal ($35) – There’s something so luxurious about pulling a gorgeous journal out of your bag to write in, and this glitter snake journal does not disappoint. If snakes aren’t her thing, D.L. & Co. has a number of other lovely options including feathers and butterflies.
Eberjey pajama set ($102) – Nice pajamas are the kind of thing women rarely buy for themselves but make them feel totally pampered when slipping into them at night (I will admit though that I inspired myself with this post and picked up a couple pairs of these for myself).
$495 Dana Rebecca earrings – Every woman needs a pair of signature everyday earrings — ones she can wear to spin class and straight into the shower after — without having to remember to remove them (who has time for that, really?). Jewelry is also an awesome gift because it’s something she can wear but that you don’t have to worry about sizing for. Bonus is she’ll think of you whenever she looks in the mirror.
Miscere weekender bag with zip on/off appliqués ($650) – I discovered these Miscere weekender bags on Instagram a while back and became obsessed immediately. With interchangeable fabrics/patterns to choose from for the center panel, she can adjust the look seasonally or just according to her mood or outfit. Such a smart idea in this era of “bespoke” everything.
Lana Jewelry necklace ($980) – If you want to roll a little bigger on the jewelry front than the earrings above, then have at this black mother of pearl and quartz necklace. It has tons of different colors in it and will therefore work with a lot of different outfits. It’s unique, sexy, earthy and interesting — lots going on in one piece!
Here’s to a hip and happy holiday season.
Are you wearing a watch everyday? If not, you’re missing out on an easy way to create a signature look, one that will set you apart from everyone else. In the image above, I’ve selected 25 of my favorite watches on the market right now. Many of them are from under-the-radar brands you’ve likely not heard of. The nice thing about these watches is that NOT every other dude in your office will be wearing the same thing as you. Several are under $300, so you don’t need to break the bank to do this (although I did choose some deliciously splurge-worthy ones as well!). Below are where to find/buy, along with style notes for a few of them.
1) Tsovet, $200
2) Tsovet, $225
3) Aark Collective, $199
4) TID, $250
5) Nixon, $350. The face is made out of recycled newspapers fashioned to look like wood.
6) Daniel Wellington, $299
7) Orient Watch, $340
8) Orient Watch, $340
9) Diesel, $350
10) Seiko, $350
11) Aark Collective, $319
12) Tsovet, $450
13) Tsovet, $475
14) Helson, $599
15) Bravur, $820
16) Autodromo $875
17) Bravur, $880
18) Jenny Watches, $990 [click for black band]
19) Seven Friday, $1150
20) Uniform Wares, $1200
21) Autodromo $1200
22) Junghans, $2120
23) Graham Chronograph, $2825
24) Tsovet, $10,000
25) Rolex/Bamford Watch Dept., Price upon request [If you haven’t heard of Bamford Watch Department, they take various luxury brand watches like Rolex, Panerai, Patek Philippe, Audemars Piguet, etc. and customize them, for example with military grade titanium or graphite particle coating, along with bespoke dial colors. Pretty much your wish is their command. Just like with anything on this level of exclusivity, be prepared to open your wallet in a big way for watches like these. There’s some amazing pieces on their website, along with some pretty trippy pieces (like this), so it’s worth a click over even if just to browse.]
Tip: if you like the overall shape of something but aren’t sure of the color, click over anyway, as many of these styles come in multiple colors.
Today’s post is a guest piece written by Ruth Domber, owner of 10/10 Optics.
Your eyewear just may be one of the most important accessories you wear. This one item can create the image that you’d most like to project. Your specs say as much about you as the clothes on your back. With that in mind, here’s how to choose frames that will make you look attractive. [Julie note: many women find glasses super sexy on a man, so it pays to find frames that truly flatter you.]
Size matters The best nonverbal tool you have for communication is your eyes. By choosing a frame with the proper proportions, you maximize eye contact and increase possibilities for communication. Here’s how to figure out the right size: pinpoint the widest part of your face as a guide for width, contour the shape of your brows for height and the top of your cheekbone for depth.
Quick tips for a great fit
*If you have oily skin, stay away from shiny frames and opt for a matte finish instead.
*Make sure that your bridge (nose area) is a perfect fit, as that’s the one part of the frame that cannot be easily corrected if the fit is off.
*The arms of the glasses should not squeeze or push in on the sides of your face.
*How deep should the frames sit on your face? Never past the flare of your nostrils and never resting on your cheeks.
*The arms should be enough length to anchor at your temples at least 1/3 way around the back of your ear.
Color as your best asset If you want to keep it businesslike, stay with blues, garnets and greens. Think about your favorite tie colors, and go in that direction. Color communicates individuality, creativity and openness to new
ideas. You can keep it subtle or go big.
If you’re more into neutrals, use your hair or eye color as a simple way to find your best tones. And if you’re not sure about color, try natural materials. Horn, wood and leather are all tactile and elegant choices.
Let your glasses be an outward representation of who you are on the inside. If you’re still unsure of what works for you, try on a few styles, take some pictures and compare to figure out which suits you best.
If you’re in the NYC-area and in need of new glasses or sunglasses, I highly recommend you check out 10/10 Optics. It’s one of my favorite local style resources!
Guest article by Napper Tandy of ntandy belts
A man’s belt is often a missed opportunity to have a little fun by providing a spin to whatever you’ve decided to don and exit your home in. There are no hard and fast fashion rules one should live by other than the fact that it’s dangerous to overly color coordinate. Matching a brightly colored belt with your shirt, shoes or socks can become hazardously close to fast food uniform territory.
That said, socks that have some small colored polka dots or stripes, or a nato watch band of the same color, work… but tread lightly.
When it comes to adding a shirt, you can never lose with a white oxford and/or a shirt which features a bit of the belt color on display.
These thoughts above work for khaki, olive green or other earth-toned pants as well. Just always remember not to get too matchy or clashy. It’s not advised to go with green pants and a green belt.
Help a suit take itself less seriously.
People often ask if one can wear a suit with a colorful belt? The answer is hell yes, but like everything in life it’s all about context. One shouldn’t wear a red belt with a navy blue suit to a private wealth management meeting with new clients. But, one could wear it to dress down a suit when he still wants to look fearless on the street or while enjoying a cocktail at a bar. A colorful belt with a suit is like a pair of sneakers with a suit – a dash of cranberry in vodka to ease the bite.
Headed to the Bahamas to recharge your soul? Colorful belts party with tropical flair like Hunter Thompson at a Hell’s Angel kegger. Just remember again, stay away from overly matchy or clashy — contrast is king. Be bold, but work smarter not harder.